Bleaching Natural Hair

Most if you do not know who I am. I’m the ghost that trails behind the scenes, stalking my sisters posts- usually before they happen. I’m the prodigal sister who went out to enjoy the world but is now back, begging for forgiveness. I am that girl who once had a bomb ass twist out all those years ago using flaxseed gel. I am Temi and I am not a myth.

If you follow me on the gram (which I don’t see why you wouldn’t helloooo @temilola_solesi) you would know that my hair is green and a poppin’ bright green at that. I get people all the time coming up to me asking how I got my broccoli hair. People on the train. People on the street. All of the people that I meet (but I’m not a rapper 😂).

First things first, to get your head looking like a jolly rancher, you must bleach. GASP yeah I know. But won’t your hair break endlessly leaving you bald headed and bleary eyed at the loss of three years worth of new hair growth? Yes and no. It all depends on a lot of factors such as how healthy your hair is in the first place, how long you leave the bleach in, what volume of developer you use and how you dye your hair after the bleaching process. Impending baldness also depends on how well you prepare beforehand and so in order to prevent anyone from coming after me if their hair falls out after bleaching let me explain how to do so.

Okay preparation is easy, always bleach dirty hair (at least a week old). This seems pretty self explanatory for me because bleach on clean hair will destroy your scalp. When I say dirty, I don’t mean go and roll around in mud, but leave sufficient time between your last wash and bleaching so that there is sufficient sebum produced on your scalp and maybe even (dare I say it) a little bit of product residue to protect your scalp. The night before bleaching my hair, I put a very generous amount (I’m talking bill gates) of coconut oil in my hair and covered it with a plastic cap so that it could really soak into my follicles overnight as I have low porosity hair. These days, I would probably use a mix of coconut and castor oil because coconut oil alone doesn’t seem to do much for my hair, while castor oil would be too thick for the purpose at hand. I however used coconut oil, and still have hair on my head today.

Another thing to think about for prep is doing a skin and strand test with the bleach in order to avoid severe reactions. Speaking of reactions, you might want to check if you have any plastic equipment because metal reacts with bleach and dyes, so if not, you might want to pop to the shops.

Next up, it’s the day of bleaching, you’re feeling apprehensive (about damage) but excited at the prospect of maybe looking like an entirely different person at the end of it, effectively shocking your friends, family and haters into an instantaneous meltdown because you’re going to look fierce af. You’ve got to get up early champ, and eat a good hearty breakfast, because today is going to be a tough one. To get the ball rolling, take a few pictures with your grease saturated hair for the before and after pictures and maybe even post a cheeky selfie on your snapchat story with an ominous caption like ‘say goodbye to my hair as you know it’ with the see no evil emoji. I got all of my resources together, I had pictures and everything of all the things needed but the phone I took pictures of my first bleach job on is broken and my laptop recently crashed so I’ll just make a list:

An old t shirt
Rubber gloves
Mixing bowl
Applicator brush (if applicable)
Dye powder
30 vol developer
A rat tail comb (you can find applicator brushes which are pointy on one side for parting hair)
A clock, watch or timer
(Deep) Conditioner

And now *drum roll please*

Instructiones (is this even a real word?)

1. Put newspaper down everywhere and I mean EVERYWHERE and put on that old shirt. It’s time to get BUSY.

2. Line your hairline with Vaseline. This is to protect the skin there so if you still want edges at the end of this process, I’d advise you to heed my warnings. Also, if you’ve only sectioned of a part of your hair for bleaching, make sure you put Vaseline over the demarcation line so that the bleach doesn’t leach out to a different area of your head.

2. Apply gloves on to hands. Make sure each finger is in the right part of the glove. No messing about.

3. Mix your bleach powder with your developer. I used Jerome Russel Bblonde High Lift Powder Bleach and Bblonde Maximum Cream Peroxide 30 vol. Even though I have very thick and strong hair, I read the 40 vol developer will destroy your hair, and as someone who is too lazy to do the proper natural regiment with lots of deep conditioning and satin bonnets (as you’ll find out soon enough), I wasn’t taking any chances. Mix until both products are blended smoothly. Basically, follow the instructions on the box. The mixture usually gets a bit frothy and creamy.

4. Start at the edge of your section, if you are doing your full head then you should have already sectioned your hair into at least four parts. Apply bleach to the edge of your section using your fingers or the applicator brush, and using a rat tail comb part small sections going in the direction of the other side of the part and continue the applying the bleach. Start from the tip and go toward the scalp stopping about an inch away since hair closer to the scalp lightens faster.

5. This particular bleaching kit states that you can leave the hair anywhere from 20-90 minutes i.e. until you reach your desired colour. However, 15 minutes in, you will need to go back and do your roots stopping about 1/4 of an inch from the scalp.

6. When your desired coloured is reached, rinse the bleach out with warm water, not cold since cold water will close your cuticles, thus trapping bleach inside (at least I’d say so as it makes sense logically). Your hair will literally feel (and look) like straw and so to save those strands, shampoo with warm water to get all of the bleach out, and then condition/deep condition overnight rinsing it out in the morning with cold water to lock in the conditioner.

7. Now you’re a whole new person, so you can either tone your hair if your goal is to be blonde, dye your hair although some people recommend you wait a few days- I didn’t because I’m an independent black woman who does what she wants 💁🏾 (p.s why can’t my emoji have an Afro, although that’s a whole other topic) or you can let it rest for a bit and decide you’d future moves later.

Like I said earlier, I have no pictures from my first bleach attempt, but I have a few from touching up my roots. Well, I say roots, but it’s a years worth of hair 😅😂.




In the first picture, my hair is saturated in coconut oil, begging to be bleached.

The second one was taken at 1.13pm a few minutes after applying the bleach.

The third one was taken at 1.44pm seconds before I rinsed the bleach out

In this final picture, my hair has been rinsed of bleach and shampooed and I am sure that I was about to apply some conditioner or a protein treatment, I’m not sure which I did first. As you can see, my hair not only feels a bit lit straw but also looks like it. This is because for some reason, my brain told me it would be a good idea to bleach my already bleached hair again as well as my roots. Bad idea guys. However, with the proper treatment my ends did survive and thrive.

And so to avoid confusion, in the pictures, I bleached all of the hairs from root to tip, which i know now, that you should only do when bleaching for the first time. When you are bleaching your roots, simply bleach just your roots… I mean it’s sounds like common sense but for some of us (ehem, me) it’s not that common.

So take care of yourselves guys, and tell me what you want my next post to be on. Colouring? Things no one told you about bleaching you’d hair? Or being a lazy natural?

See ya. Catch ya. Later.

Temi x


Restoring your hair line

Hi curlies,

Today’s topic was requested, so we’re going to talk about hair loss and how to restore it. I’m one of those people who have noticed that my hairline wasn’t looking as full as it used to, especially when I was relaxed. So we’re going to explore how to prevent hair loss and how to reverse it.

Note: Something to note is that one reason my hairline now looks thinner is that my relaxed hair was a lot thinner than my natural hair. As a result, my hairline looks thinner than the rest of my hair by comparison. A few pictures should be able to tell you whether this is the case and you may not have anything to worry about.






  • Trying too hard to get your edges ‘on fleek’- I think you all know what I mean. Gel, edge control, pomade and brushing your hair to reach that slick effect that makes your hair look ‘neat’. It’s not necessary, and overdoing it can give you permanent hair loss not just on your edges, but the whole hairline. If you really need your hair to be smooth put a bit of product and tie a scarf overnight for for an hour for smooth edges without the mechanical trauma.


  • Protective styles – most styles with hair added tend to put a strain on your hairline. Braids, weaves and even cornrowed styles can wreak havoc if done too tight, if too much hair is added, it it’s left on too long etc. I think this is the worst culprit, everyone has seen the pics of Naomi Campbell with no front hair whatsoever and it’s not just her that has suffered from it. To avoid this hair nightmare, you need to tell your hairdresser to take it easy when they are doing your hair. They need to gently manipulate it so it doesn’t fall out at the roots. This kind of damage can be permanent so it’s good to watch out for this.



  • Jamaican Black Castor Oil – Massaging in room temperature or warm JBCO every morning and night has been known to help restore edges. Oils such as peppermint and rosemary are also known to stimulate hair growth and can be added to the castor oil to improve it’s potency. You could try doing this less frequently if you’re a bit short for time.


  • Raw onion juice – Blend finely chopped onions and with water and rub on your hairline every night. This method is very smelly and may not be suited to a lot of people, so I would suggest this as on overnight pre-poo the night before your wash day.


  • Honey, castor oil, olive oil and an egg yolk may be your ticket to full edges. Using this as a pre-poo will help to grow back your edges.


There you have it, tips to help you grow out your lost hairline, I hope this helps!





What’s in my bag?

So I was tagged to do this post by the lovely Alex of The Lazy Natural and its taken me a while because I had to de-litter my bag, it was filled with nonsensical things that I would never show you guys 😝. Without further ado let’s begin:


1. My wallet: I got this on holiday in Spain in this haul. It wasn’t too expensive at €8.99 and was really good value for money because two years after, it looks as good as new.

2. My not-really-sunglasses sunglasses: I have some funky eyes. I can’t see in the sun or any bright situation, but I can’t wear sunglasses at night because then it’s too dark. These are polarizing sunglasses so the reduce the amount of light coming in without actually making my vision darker.

3. My makeup bag: I also got this on holiday in Spain. The white stitching is a bit off Colour but it still looks pretty good.

4. Loose change: I’m not a fan of cash, I’d rather be living the contactless card life. So whenever I get change, my wallet is already closed. Extra change just swims around my bag, which is great for the toll gate not to good for my bags tidiness.

5. Ipad mini 2: I got this as a present, and I find it much more convenient to write posts on the go because it’s much bigger than my phone so it’s easier to add pictures.

6. Wall/USB charger: I hate when my devices run low so I make sure i’m prepared.

7. Keys: Pretty explanatory don’t ya think?

8. Body Spray: With all this Lagos heat and sweat, I feel a bit funky sometimes. This body spray does a great job of restoring my oh-so fresh feeling.

9. Vaseline Cocoa Butter Hand and Body Cream: It smelled delicious in the store and was only N200!!! I thought it would be a crime not to buy it. They have a bigger version for N500 that I keep in my car, because the AC really dries my skin out.

And there you have it, that’s whats in my bag!


(PS I reposted to show the picture and edits)


Back to the Maximum Hydration Method


So it’s been a while since I followed the MHM method after having the twists, weave, more twists etc. One thing I like about the method though is that it’s nice to have a fixed regimen, I know exactly what i’m going to do and how often I need to do it. Whether I do exactly what i’m supposed to do is another thing entirely.

One thing I noticed about MHM is, my curls are always more defined than before, no matter what I did to my hair in between. I used to think that combing the hair would reverse or slow down the clumping, which it probably does to an extent but I still see better results every cycle.

After taking down my twists.
After taking down my twists.
Before the clay step
Before the clay step

My current method/products, do differ slightly than before but it doesn’t seem to have changed my hair in a major fashion. My current method is:

  • Cherry Lola: Liquid aminos, conditioner or yoghurt, honey and olive oil. I do this for at least an hour.
  • If i’m not doing the Cherry Lola I use a mix of water, conditioner and baking soda (I find that this mix is nice and slippery for detangling) rinsing immediately after the section is detangled.
  • Bentonite clay mix: about half a cup of bentonite clay mixed with aloe vera gel, olive oil, honey and conditioner. I leave this on for about 30 mins.
  • Deep conditioner: This I leave on for another 30 mins or so, sometimes the bentonite can be a bit drying so I only use this to soften it back up again.
  • Warm water, olive oil and conditioner: This mix really defines my curls and allows me to separate the clumps to create more volume whilst preventing frizz. This is a new find that i’m sticking to.
  • Gel if I find it necessary. After using the mix above, I don’t need to use gel because it stays soft for a few days, but I find gel reduces the shrinkage so I do use it sometimes.
Second to last cycle
Second to last cycle
last cycle
last cycle

The difference isn’t really that much from cycle to cycle, mainly because I don’t follow it 100% and I also don’t always use recommended products, but what it you can’t see is how much smoother the hair gets each time, or that there are less tangles than before. Also I tried using my blow dryer on cool once or twice to reduce the shrinkage, I find my hair tangles if i don’t wash it under 3 days if it’s too shrunken, the blow dryer helps with this. I don’t have pictures of after the hair dries because I’m only vain when i’m washing my hair, afterwards I seem to forget that pictures are needed haha.




Makeup Addict: Improving Your Skin Under The Makeup


I think one of the major reasons why some people won’t be caught dead without their makeup is that their skin underneath has a lot of blemishes and imperfections. Anyone who hasn’t seen me in the past year or so is thinking ‘ why is Simi saying they, when her skin is quite bad too?’ Well, i was introduced to a new regime around December 2013 and realised the importance of a good skin care routine, especially if you have sensitive or problematic skin. These are the main ways I improved the appearance and texture of my skin:

Stop chopping and changing!!!!:  I think this is by far the most important thing to understand, you can never fully appreciate whether a routine is working for you if you aren’t consistent with it. Stick with your products for at least a month if it’s a normal cleansing routine. If your skin is particularly bad, or you are trying to fade dark marks or scars it is suggested to wait up to three months. If you are inconsistent, you will not see the true effect of your routine.


Be aware of ‘purging’: It is widely accepted that some products may cause ‘purging’ soon after their initial use. However, I would be sceptical of a product that cause purging for longer than a week or so. Your skin can react to a change in products so a small reaction by your skin is to be expected. But, if your skin seems to be getting progressively worse and you’re seeing even more blackheads and the like than normal, then I suggest you stop using it before it causes lasting damage.

Good quality does not necessarily mean expensive:  currently I use the clinique system (gifted) as my skin routine by day, and some Lancôme samples I received by night. Clinique is by no means cheap, but they are definitely not expensive and they are good value for money. I have been using my current clinique cleanser for over a year now, and I have just about another month left before it runs out. I use the toner less frequently, but even so, I have only used a third and as for the lotion, I still have just under half left. The total 3 step costs about $66 (N15000, £75) and lasts for over a year which is about N1,250 monthly. You can make it last even longer and save even more money, if you can’t spend N15,000 on your skin and face but you can buy N20,000 weave (and that’s cheap) then you need to examine your priorities. That said, if you really can’t spare that amount of money, there are plenty of other less expensive brands like Neutrogena, Clean & Clear and even natural remedies like black soap and olive oil.

Drink more water:  yes, we all knew this, but who wants to drink 8 cups of water a day? I can barely drink half a cup with a meal, if I drank all that, I would never eat. The key to this sentence is ‘more’, If you were drinking a cup of water a day, start drinking 2, if you were drinking 2, drink 3. It’s as simple as that, carry a water flask, if need be put a timer on your phone, ask for water instead of soft drinks with your meal, it all adds up.

The areas in the light are the problem areas.
The areas in the light were the problem areas…not anymore!!!

Always take your makeup off: makeup isn’t good for your skin, so it’s best to take it off as soon as it’s no longer needed. I hate this step and would conveniently forget to do this if I didn’t find a saviour. Baby wipes are a quick, yet effective way to take off your makeup without needing to go for a full wash (that should happen just before bed). They’re cheaper than makeup wipes and are good for sensitive skin.

Clean your makeup brushes (and tools): anything and everything can become the breeding ground for bacteria, but most things are washed quite often. Makeup brushes are frequently overlooked because you only use them for a few seconds at a time, bacteria can grow on all the left over makeup so it’s important to clean all your makeup tools about once a week.

Stop touching your face: Hands get dirty, fact. You touch your ear, eat, go to the loo, touch a table. Who knows what’s lurking on those surfaces waiting to make its home in your skin (ew!). Dirt can be transferred easily from your hands to your face, so it’s best to keep your hands off your face unless freshly washed and even then, only unless necessary.

Don’t overdo it: One thing that most people don’t realise is the body likes to regulate itself, and when we mess with the balance it tends to overcompensate. Using too much cleanser can dry your skin out and in turn make it produce more oil. Too much exfoliation and the skin becomes irritated and raw, so you can’t even touch it. Too much moisturiser and your skin becomes greasy and clogged, causing more blemishes to appear. Moderation  is key, start small and then build up to what your skin can handle.

Here are my best tips, enjoy!



Makeup Addict: A makeup hoarder’s product haul

Hey curlies (and kinkies and wavies),

A lot of you who know me know that I don’t really wear makeup, so how can I be a makeup addict? I’m the kind of girl that wears minimal makeup at best, some eyeliner, mascara and a bit of foundation and i’m good to go. In fact, i’ve had people comment that if I want to leave my hair natural I have to at least wear some more makeup or people will think i’m some Ekaette (housemaid) which I just totally ignored. However, my sister suggested a beauty segment on the blog, and even though she’s not currently in a position to post, I decided to start it in her stead. So the Makeup Addict series will focus on SIMPLE, everyday looks and makeup products that won’t break the bank and that you can access here in Nigeria.

So I went on holiday and bought a few more products to my ever growing stash, unfortunately i realised that some of them aren’t available here, my bad. These are the latest (and mostly unnecessary) additions to my makeups tash:

Simple yet effective

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Back to basics: small twists

Hey curlies (and non curlies )

Twists and its many variations are like the poster style for every type of natural girl. You’ve got mini twists,  rope twists, flat twists,  large twists,  small twists,  the strand twists etc.

I think that the reason they’re so popular is that  they can be really simple like large twists or really intricate like flat twisted styles
So they’re perfect for the beginner whos not so good at styling yet but also for the long term naturalista who has been there done that. Twisted styles can also be considered protective styles and can  keep your hair tucked away for a few  days or even up to a few weeks.

This week, after wondering what i could do to keep my hair out of the way, i decided to do some small twists. Now, i define ‘small twists ‘ as twists smaller than your average chunky twists, but definitely larger than mini twists, think about 15-50 twists.

I’m currently in a situation where i dont have access to my normal hair products so i didnt use anything special.  But sometimes I like to be simple and not overcomplicate what I’m  doing and the results are even more satisfying.


After co-washing my hair with Elasta QP Intense conditioner,  i sprayed my hair lightly with a concentrated mix of aloe vera juice and water. Then, on the individual twisting sections,  i applied a bit of Shea Moisture Curl Enhancing Smoothie and  twisted the section up into a tight two-strand twist and thats it! No fuss and no nonsense.


I actually enjoy wearing my twists in, which is why I make them small and i’ve kept them in since then, except from a small section at the front that I untwisted. First I left it as a side fringe (or a bang for my American readers) but I got caught in the rain and had to pin it into some pompadour/quiff mix, you like?




Natural Hair Myths Busted: Is Scab Hair Real?

Hey Curlies,

Today, I’m going to focus on something that was a big issue around the time I first decided to go natural (wow, so long ago!) scab hair. For those who don’t know, scab hair is termed as the hair that grows after you decided to stop using chemicals on your hair, what we would call “new growth”. Some people have noticed that after growing their hair for years or more, the texture on their head changes from what it used to be at the beginning of their journey.


Because of this change, curlies around the world have hypothesized that the chemicals that had been applied to our scalp in the past had been absorbed, causing the new hair to be coarser and drier than it should be. The amount of time that goes by before the hair starts reverting back differs greatly with some saying it took almost three years for a change to be seen. Others feel that it is because after beginning the hair journey, we tend to take better care of our hair, and it is the increased moisture that improves the texture of our hair.

Started from the bottom
Started from the bottom…

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